Kinthea · understand yourself

Figure out what's going on

Short, interactive sessions. Answer a few questions and get a personalised breakdown — what your pattern actually means, and what to do with it.

understand yourself~3 min

Understand your attachment style

Answer 8 questions. Find out why you connect the way you do — and what to actually do with that.

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understand yourself~3 min

Find your apology language

What actually makes an apology land for you? Answer 8 questions and find out what's been missing.

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understand yourself~3 min

Understand how you listen

You probably think you're a better listener than you are. Answer 8 questions and find out what actually gets in the way.

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understand yourself~2 min

Find out how you reach for connection

The way you bid for closeness is probably invisible — even to you. Answer 6 questions to find out your bid language.

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understand yourself~3 min

Understand your boundary style

Limits that are too loose, too rigid, or too inconsistent all cost you differently. Find out where yours land.

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understand yourself~3 min

Find out how you handle conflict

Do you avoid it, let it build, rush to fix it — or something else? Answer 8 questions and find out.

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understand yourself~3 min

Find your love language

What actually makes you feel loved — not what you think should, but what actually does. Answer 8 questions.

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understand yourself~5 min

Audit your conflict patterns

Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling — most people use at least one. Find out which ones show up in your relationships.

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understand yourself~5 min

Practice nonviolent communication

Learn to express what you're feeling and what you need — without blame, judgment, or defensive walls.

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understand yourself~3 min

Find your vulnerability style

How open are you, really? Answer 8 questions to understand how you share — and what gets in the way.

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understand yourself~3 min

Understand how you give and receive feedback

Do you avoid it, over-give it, get defensive, or handle it well? Answer 8 questions and find out.

feedbackcommunicationrelationships
understand yourself~3 min

Understand your digital presence style

How much do devices shape your relationship — by choice or by default? Answer 8 questions and find out.

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understand yourself~5 min

Build your repair menu

The phrases that actually work mid-conflict are the ones that feel like yours. Find out which repair attempts you'd actually use.

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understand yourself~5 min

Design your relationship check-in

Build a simple, repeatable structure for staying connected — one that actually fits how you two work.

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understand yourself~5 min

Prepare for a difficult conversation

Get clear on what happened, how you feel, what you need, and what you're afraid of — before you walk in.

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understand yourself~5 min

Audit your stress spillover

Which areas of your life are bleeding most into your relationship? Rate seven domains and find out where to focus.

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Track your five-to-one ratio

Gottman's research shows healthy relationships run 5:1 positive to negative. Start counting — and find out where you are.

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